Be the perfect gentleman. Your date, even if she has strong feminist inclinations, will appreciate being treated like the lady that she is. She will be pleased when you show her the traditional niceties like holding open a door for her, allowing her to enter the room before you do, and pulling out a chair for her. Lovely manners like these will get you ahead of the pack.
Of course for those of you who read up on this sort of thing and who are familiar with The Desire System may question whether all this is really necessary. My response is that you should probably do both.
Another gentlemanly and considerate thing to do is to keep your attention on her. There is nothing more off putting to a woman out on a date with you than to find you eyeing the seductive girl seated at the table across yours. Even when you try to be furtive about it, your date will notice. And this will certainly not get you plus points. Nothing gets your date’s fancy like your full attention on her. This will get her all flushed the entire night – and get her to think highly of you as date material. The next time you ask her out for another date, she will be inclined to say yes with enthusiasm.
If you really want to pursue your girl, make sure that you create romance. Nothing gets to a girl like being romanced. Be thoughtful. Send her flowers. Buy her candy, beautiful mood music, perfumes, and jewelry. Let her know that she is constantly on your mind. When you go out on subsequent dates, make them memorable for her. Take her to fine restaurants. If she has a passion for dancing, take her to nightclubs. If she likes romantic movies, watch them with her. If she likes reading, take her to a bookstore and get her the books that she likes. All these will let her know that you think keenly enough of her ñ and that you think nothing of going out of your way to find out what her interests are in order to indulge her.
Finding a woman with good morals, and all of the other qualities one is looking for, can be hard in this day and age. Nowadays, it seems like more and more women are putting off marriage and family, in order to enjoy their person freedom and establish careers. And, while everyone is free to do what they want, I think that this change in social norms is undoubtedly making the dating scene more challenging for young people who are actually marriage minded.
Of course this isn’t just a problem for single men looking to settle down. Most men in their 20s and 30s are also taking their sweet time to grow up and become responsible citizens, which makes things had for the few remaining marriage minded single women out there. But to keep this from turning into a book Iíll focus on struggles men facing single men. Just a few short decades ago it was not uncommon for people to marry right after college, and to quickly start a family. The economic situation in the states was better for most young families which allowed women the opportunity to stay home and raise their children while the men were all out at work.
Certainly this situation had itís drawbacks, but all in all, I think that most of us can agree that the children benefited from the care provided by their mothers, assuming that the mothers were loving, nurturing care-givers. These days however, it is harder and harder for a family to support itself on just one income, and this is causing couples to put off having children or even forego having little ones all together. It seems like the young people today just donít see anyway that they can start a family and provide for there children without both parents needing to work long hours, which is certainly a depressing thought. Perhaps this is why so many people are embracing the single life and spending their time on other pursuits.
For a man who has been raised to value family, it can be difficult to navigate the dating scene based on these recent cultural changes. This is why programs like Jason Capital’s Make Women Want You have become so popular. Men need a way to understand female psychology so that they can appeal to women. This gives men the opportunity to be choosy and have their pick of the most suitable partners.
Of course, learning how to make women like you can become journey in an of itself, but for those men hard set on finding women they can start families with, I believe this is a challenge they will readily accept.
A 2009 American Drama, the Bad Lieutenant: Port of New Orleans was believed to be a rethought of the 1992 film Bad Lieutenant. It is showcased by one of the biggest stars in Hollywood (Nicholas Cage) and joined together by Eva Mendes, Jennifer Coolidge, Tom Bower, Val Kilmer, Xzibit, and Brad Dourif. The movie has a politically-inclined setting centered on the role played by Nicholas Cage named Terence McDonagh.
The movie started with Terence McDonagh as a tough New Orleans Police Sergeant dedicated to his career but efforts remain unseen until an unfortunate event changed his life which would later make the audience decide whether it was a good or bad thing. A Hurricane named Katrina hit several cities including a certain prison cell. While cleaning out a locker within the vicinity, Terence McDonagh saw a prisoner who was apparently not transferred to a safer place after the hurricane. He saw the prisoner was about to drown and he jumped immediately to save the prisoner. The administration later knew his heroic act and was promoted to Lieutenant though he suffered back injury that required him to take Vicodin as doctorís prescription for the rest of his life.
Like most movies, the Bad Lieutenant: Port of New Orleans fast-forwards 6 months later showing how addicted Terence McDonagh is to painkillers. Not only that, Terence McDonagh became a habitual drug user of cocaine and cannabis. He has convinced a person who works in the same department as his to sell him drugs all the time. Terence McDonagh is not alone in this addiction as his girlfriend Frankie, who is a prostitute, shares drugs with him. The relationship mostly revolved about how they have the same interest in only one thing, drugs.
The film shows how drugs affected Terence McDonaghís relationship to his family. He left his father, who at the film, was already recovering from alcohol addiction. Terence McDonagh exhibited abuse of authority by using his power to bully other people, which are all the effects of his drug addiction. He even steals drugs as seen on the film. When Terence McDonagh was assigned to investigate a murder case, things get a little complicated, leading to the climax of the storyline. The murder scene involves 5 illegal immigrants that were executed. Upon investigation, Terence McDonagh found an auditory witness in the person of a delivery boy. The delivery boy revealed that the people were murdered for selling drugs in their neighbourhood where the gang leader resides. Later on, the gang leader Big Fate with his two associates Midget and G were arrested. Big Fate finds submitting himself to the authorities with the assistance of a lawyer.
Meanwhile, Terence McDonagh returned to his hotel and found his girlfriend Frankie beaten by one of her clients named Justin. Terence, upon seeing the act, threatens Justin and took $10,000. At the same time, the delivery boy acting as the sole witness has gone missing and to get as much evidence as the murder case needs, Terence went to find the delivery boyís grandmother to get information. Terence even tried threatening the grandmotherís patient at a nursing home but the grandmother only warned Terence to leave the State and go back to his hometown in England to prevent involvement in this gang issues.
Things get a little blurry for Terence because his problems came all at once. He hasnít paid his bookie yet which has been accumulating interests and at the same time, the gangster who works for Justin whom he took $10,000 came back demanding for $50,000 in exchange of his safety. Terence cannot do anything at this point because he does not have the authority anymore. He is now on modified position and his gun was confiscated after threatening to kill a patient in a nursing home. With no one to run to and with a very little capacity to escape from liability, he seeks the help of the suspect Big Fate. Together, they make a great partner and started to mobilize their own illegal agendas. Terence McDonagh supplied Big Fate with police information as a form of revenge against the government and as part of their collaboration. In effect, Terence McDonagh now has enough money to pay his bookie including the payment for the agreed $50,000 he has with the gangster.
Upon deadline of the $50,000, Terence McDonagh appeared as agreed and instead of merely offering $50,000, he offered more. He offered a bag full of heroine but the gangster, greedy as they are, demand all of them. Big Fate and his team end up killing them. They soon celebrated and Terence McDonagh influences Big Fate to smoke cocaine with the lucky crack pipe.
Unknown to everyone, Terence McDonagh was up for an evil plan. He planted the pipe at the scene of the murder crime Big Fate was accused of. This will serve as enough evidence to finally convict him of the crime of murder. The authorities found the pipe as planted by Terence and was used as new evidence of the crime. Terence McDonaghís partner in the investigation threatened to kill Big Fate to prevent his escape. Terence McDonagh was at the right situation to stop his investigating partner and arrested the accused. This act made him redeem himself of his government duties, making an implication that despite his alleged drug addiction, he is still capable of fulfilling his duties as a Lieutenant. Because of this, McDonagh was promoted to Captain.
Like the usual movie stories, Terence McDonagh became a changed person a year after. The movie forwards the time one year after showing him with his girlfriend Frankie who is bearing their child. They have both stopped from addiction and they live with the McDonaghs. At the end of the film, McDonagh came across the man whom he saved life in the prison cell in the beginning of the story. The man who has already served his sentence in the prison offered to help McDonagh to finally escape addiction.
This Bad Lieutenant: Movie Review shows that in the chronological order of the story, the main actor has developed ups and downs like normal people do. The only difference is that in this Bad Lieutenant: Movie Review, it shows the intensity of every scene as the actor engage in every illegal act. It is important to emphasize in this Bad Lieutenant: Movie Review that those who deal with drugs to the extent of exploiting themselves are really made to suffer its consequences in the end. In this movie, it is shown that the main actor Terence abuses his power upon assumption of a higher position. He uses his position to buy more drugs which all the more make his life miserable together with his girlfriend. He even went to the extent of threatening to kill other people in order to extract information. Here it is seen that the patience, intellect, and morality of a person degrades when he use his power the wrong way and with the attendance of drugs.
Any Bad Lieutenant: Movie Review will have a common denominator of describing the main cast as an outlaw, someone who, in majority of politically-inclined movies is torn apart between doing what is good or joining what is bad. The movie shows that the main actor, like most of other protagonist, is tempted of earthly things, desire, lust, and greed. The movie made it so intense all at the same time to engage its audience more and make them feel the shift of character of Terence in the end. Also, the audience expects the main character to change by the end of the movie which is 100% acceptable because it serves as the moral lesson of the story.
As Bad Lieutenant: Movie Review, it is important to mention how the movie gave value to the role of the family specifically the parents in the upbringing of their children. Though it is not widely shown in the story, the director made it a point to show how absence of a family affects the upbringing of a child. At the end of the movie, it is shown that Terence made a big change in his life by stopping the use of drugs with the help of his family. The movie also represents the forgiving heart of the family, willing to accept come what may.
All in all, the movie is a great combination of action, politics, and socialization though the shift of events is not extraordinary. Some Bad Lieutenant: Movie Review even believed that the movie was a mere reverberation of the old Bad Lieutenant 2000 movie. While some have expressed dissatisfaction, the movie still made it big, with Nicholas Cage as the lead actor. It was not as visually entertaining as the other movies of its time, and could bore a lot of teenager nowadays but when looking into the quality of the movie, critics would still give it high remarks for portraying a reality of todayís generation. Terence McDonagh is a symbol of courage that change is possible.
This movie review was written by John Waller. Apart from exercising his passion for thriller movies (including this one!), John is an avid writer and has written for a variety of online magazines, such as the Huffington Post.